I don't believe that anyone should ever have to apologize for:
Grieving out loud
Grieving in public
Decisions they make while grieving like how they write up an obituary, belongings of the lost loved one, etc.
Calling out any A*holes that dares to tread on the sacred space of grief
Not following someone else’s how-to, blueprint of “this is how to grieve”
I want you to have a permission slip to practice Unapologetic Grief - Your Pain, Your Loss, Your Journey, Your Way!
I’m gonna let my geek flag fly a moment - I watch Star Trek and on the Discovery series, the character Saru had this today say about it: “If loss has taught us anything, it has taught us that we have to sit in our pain in our own way.” That was so profound for me when he said that. (He really is a wise character - one of my favorite characters.)
If anyone tries to tell you all the whats, whens, hows, whys of grief, I strongly suggest you use your discernment. Are they really trying to “help”?
Here’s why:
When you are faced with gr…
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